“You try to tell that idiot (therapist), and he doesn’t understand.
You tell it more clearly, and that idiot still doesn’t understand.
You tell it more clearly, and that idiot still doesn’t really understand.
You tell it even more clearly, and you suddenly realize that for the first time in your life you understand it yourself.
So the therapist doesn’t have to be right, but just has to be close enough so that it’s worth the patient’s trouble to try to make the therapist understand”

Bettelheim